Why NOT internet
WHY THE INTERNET IS OFTEN NOT THE BEST OPTION
Icebreaker = Interaction not Internet
WHY THE INTERNET IS OFTEN NOT THE BEST OPTION
Icebreaker = Interaction not Internet
Sadly, this page is a necessity - and, while quite lengthy, You don't really need to read it all - these are just a few examples of the risks and dangers which are prevalent in the Online dating environment however I must stress that not every member on any dating sites is disreputable or dishonest, and those who are can be measured by degrees - we all have our own experiences.
Offensive behaviour is pretty much an everyday event but few make the press. the example below is from June 2019
However, unfortunately, while the example above is offensive, it is extremely difficult to identify even worse individuals such as those who are professional scammers whose sole intention is to target the vulnerable and defraud them..
The most recent BBC report in September 2019, states that in total £7.9 million was lost to 935 people between January and June of that year
THAT IS NEARLY £8 MILLION OVER ONLY 6 MONTHS
and sadly only £500,000 was recovered and returned to victims.
and in August 2019 this individual was probably part of the above figures:
July 2015 the BBC reported another example:
Online 'dater' defrauded women of £250,000
However, even following the introduction of countermeasures by the ODA (Online Dating Association) members, the issue persists.
The links below are to reports about more high profile instances and the distressing impact some of these morally bankrupt people have had on other members, and in some instances, these are serial offenders – who it seems, make a living by depriving their prey of theirs, sometimes, sadly, literally.
Unfortunately, these are the occasions where it makes the news headlines but this type of dishonest behaviour is ingrained across the whole cyber world just because it is so easy to deceive many people.
Some cases were featured on Channel 4 ‘My Online Nightmare’ in April 2017. Even more recent examples were showcased in BBC's For Love or Money (with Kym Marsh and Ashley John-Baptiste) As you will see from these links the victims are intelligent and competent people who have been duped by such scammers. One victim was quoted as saying
“Sociopaths do not choose dim victims”Mary Turner Thomson
The link below relates to Chris Heayns who duped Dr. Liz Todd via Plenty of Fish and was convicted of fraud in Jul 2016 and sentenced to 9 years imprisonment.
The other reported case relates to another serial scammer named William Allen Jordan – who had a string of aliases in various dating sites – he was imprisoned for 3 years for defrauding more than £300,000 from 21 victims in 5 countries
In July 2017 a case was reported in Manchester where a male model discovered that his photo was being used to entice women on dating websites – this practice is known as ‘Catfishing’.
Also, just how secure is your online profile?
Upmarket dating site Ashley Madison, which is aimed at professional men, was found to have been hacked in 2015. This data breach also exposed the huge volume of married men using these sites for extramarital relationships.
However even worse than these morally bankrupt individuals who demonstrate dishonesty and fraud there are even darker motives to some of the members on these sites
This horrific report is from January 2018
Or equally horrific was the motive exhibited by the behaviour of Jason Lawrance.
He was convicted of the rape of at least 5 women in March 2016 after using Match.com to lure his victims
Or, then there is the ultimate danger
Murder!!
Still interested in Online Dating?
My personal experience, and these shocking and distressing accounts, which only identify a fraction of these events only serve to reinforce my concerns.
This has completely destroyed my confidence or desire to use Online options.
So, This is why I have created The Icebreaker
as an amazing alternative.
Whilst it does not completely remove any inherent risks involved in meeting new people and making new friends and contacts - it does create a safer environment where you are in control, and on your own territory.
Face to face contact enables better personal responsibility, authority, and power over the choices made.
It allows for a better quality of decision making based on the facts and realities you can see in the real world and makes the whole process a lot more honest, safer, straightforward, and enjoyable!
I know which option I prefer!
ICEBREAKER
= INTERACTION - NOT INTERNET
However, if you do still have an appetite for internet dating, I have added a couple of helpful pages to assist you to filter out some of the more obvious scams.
This type of thing occurs so frequently there are even websites dedicated to exposing these individuals:
Even the dating site owners are aware of these issues and some publish their own ‘advice’….
Whatever your decision - I wish you all success with your search but more importantly, whether you choose to invest in The Icbreaker
or not - above all......
BE SAFE